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How Do People Pleasers Say No?

How Do People Pleasers Say No?

So how do ‘people pleasers’ say no?  Well as someone who knows very well she is a recovering (and still very much working at it) people pleaser, I can tell you simply…we don’t. Full stop. It doesn’t happen. Now we quite often MEAN to say no, we just do it in such a round-about, don’t want to upset any apple carts or make anyone unhappy way…that it sounds, at best, like a ‘maybe’. And we are lying. To ourselves and…

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How We Get In Our Own Way

How We Get In Our Own Way

I’m telling stories, making metaphors and sharing the one thing we do that often prevents us from getting what we want in life. I also share a very special tool I use almost every day!   How do you find you tend to get in your own way? (let me know in the comments below) We all do it sometimes and in SO many different ways. Staying aware, taking time to reflect often can help us move out of that…

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Taking Control of Your Own Life

Taking Control of Your Own Life

I have encountered a fair number of new clients or friends who get upset when I talk about being in control of your own life.  Like, really upset. In fact, one person called me out on it pretty harshly.  I’m okay with that.  I’ve found the blessing in this. When someone calls you out on your beliefs you have a choice to make it work for you or get really upset and defensive. You see, it can cause you to…

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I Lied And Said I Was Busy

I Lied And Said I Was Busy

Have you ever lied about being ‘busy’? The vague ‘oh I have an appointment then” when you really don’t? That sort of thing? I most certainly have.  In the past I think I lied about this quite often. Or worse didn’t and struggled through situations that were far too much for my physical well-being, not to mention emotional or mental well-being. I don’t know about you, but I use to lie about being busy to avoid the looks, the feelings…

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A Word On Enough-ness

A Word On Enough-ness

Beautiful Soul, this is your friendly reminder that You Are Enough. Too often we push and pull at our Selves, til we hardly recognize who we really are in this world because we’re trying so desperately to fit into it. Desperate to BE enough, when the truth it our enough-ness is already Truth. You are NOT responsible for anyone else. You are not them. They are not you. And yet, we are all innately connected. But only you are responsible…

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Peeling Back the Curtain – How I DO Self-Care

Peeling Back the Curtain – How I DO Self-Care

Self care needs to be purposeful! Yes, yes I know I’ve said that before (a few hundred times) and yet there are some folks out there you have heard it – but clearly don’t get it.  How do I know? Simple, because they are not living it. Too many folks are half-assing it, forgetting about it or not prioritizing it and then wondering why self care doesn’t help them. So I’ve decided to share with you some of the very…

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How To Ditch Self Criticizing Thoughts

How To Ditch Self Criticizing Thoughts

Imagine for a moment that I have my magic wand out…you know the one. Today I’m going to take it and wave it around and give you a gift. It is a speaker that will take your thoughts and amplify them so everyone around you can hear them.  But don’t worry, it will ONLY use the thoughts you have directed at yourself. That cutie on the bus you see every day on the way to work will never know you…

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Why I Don’t Bother With Labels

Why I Don’t Bother With Labels

Some people have asked me ‘what’ I am. Have you ever had that question? It can be asked around religion, spirituality, job title, culture…so much can land under that question. I find that amusing because there was a time when finding my label, my ‘thing’ was super important to me. I thought that knowing the correct answer would not only bring me clarity but would support me in creating Step Into Brilliance and even my own personal best life. I…

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The Dirty Nasty ‘How’s’

The Dirty Nasty ‘How’s’

What’s a dream you have, one that you’re putting on hold? What are you waiting for? Could it be the ‘hows’? THAT is exactly the last thing to sit and wait for. Listen, goal setting 101 – write it out. What do you WANT? To finish a website? Write a blog? Lost 20 pounds? Build muscle? Learn a new language? Learn to practice forgiveness? Rise to the level of a god? whew…oh wait…I may have gotten a bit excited there….

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The Darker Side Of Giving

The Darker Side Of Giving

Giving is a wonderful thing isn’t it?  Well, it IS, til it’s not. We’ve been bombarded with messages our whole lives about the wonderful magic and giving. Better to give than receive The giver is blessed thrice over Giving is better than receiving I don’t want anything except to make you happy He’s so nice he’d give you the shirt off his own back You can only get what you give There is a lot that we could unpack about…

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