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How Do People Pleasers Say No?

How Do People Pleasers Say No?

So how do ‘people pleasers’ say no?  Well as someone who knows very well she is a recovering (and still very much working at it) people pleaser, I can tell you simply…we don’t. Full stop. It doesn’t happen. Now we quite often MEAN to say no, we just do it in such a round-about, don’t want to upset any apple carts or make anyone unhappy way…that it sounds, at best, like a ‘maybe’. And we are lying. To ourselves and…

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Nothing is as Powerful as Persistence

Nothing is as Powerful as Persistence

Benjamin Franklin once said that “energy and persistence conquer all things.” That guy knew a very big secret to success and happiness. It isn’t just about talent or skill set, it more often is about persistence. This is true in every aspect of life.  Have you ever heard something like ‘his overnight success took 10 years?’  It’s really bang on. There are so many examples of people who are successful who were not especially talented, educated or extra smart.  They…

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Taking Control of Your Own Life

Taking Control of Your Own Life

I have encountered a fair number of new clients or friends who get upset when I talk about being in control of your own life.  Like, really upset. In fact, one person called me out on it pretty harshly.  I’m okay with that.  I’ve found the blessing in this. When someone calls you out on your beliefs you have a choice to make it work for you or get really upset and defensive. You see, it can cause you to…

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Forgive For YOU

Forgive For YOU

Ooohh..Someone done you wrong? Vengeance is MINE! I seek revenge for.. I will make them pay. You will rue the day! (okay that one was more for fun) Any of those catch your fancy? You know..crap happens. People who choose crappy actions happen. The question is are you going to spend your one, precious life being angry and victimized?  Your choice. First, before you jump all over me, yes I know it is perfectly natural and sometimes quite healthy to…

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I Lied And Said I Was Busy

I Lied And Said I Was Busy

Have you ever lied about being ‘busy’? The vague ‘oh I have an appointment then” when you really don’t? That sort of thing? I most certainly have.  In the past I think I lied about this quite often. Or worse didn’t and struggled through situations that were far too much for my physical well-being, not to mention emotional or mental well-being. I don’t know about you, but I use to lie about being busy to avoid the looks, the feelings…

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A Word On Enough-ness

A Word On Enough-ness

Beautiful Soul, this is your friendly reminder that You Are Enough. Too often we push and pull at our Selves, til we hardly recognize who we really are in this world because we’re trying so desperately to fit into it. Desperate to BE enough, when the truth it our enough-ness is already Truth. You are NOT responsible for anyone else. You are not them. They are not you. And yet, we are all innately connected. But only you are responsible…

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Why Successful People Seek Coaching

Why Successful People Seek Coaching

One of the things I often have to explain to people is that coaching is not therapy, mentoring or being your bestie who will love you, listen and tell you you’re wonderful, no matter what. (I will tell you the truth lovely, even if you don’t like it) I have referred people to a therapist when I realized they are looking for help healing past trauma.  While coaching can provide inner healing, it’s not a replacement for the type of…

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Peeling Back the Curtain – How I DO Self-Care

Peeling Back the Curtain – How I DO Self-Care

Self care needs to be purposeful! Yes, yes I know I’ve said that before (a few hundred times) and yet there are some folks out there you have heard it – but clearly don’t get it.  How do I know? Simple, because they are not living it. Too many folks are half-assing it, forgetting about it or not prioritizing it and then wondering why self care doesn’t help them. So I’ve decided to share with you some of the very…

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How To Start Getting What You Want

How To Start Getting What You Want

A really important part of manifesting the life you want is, of course, figuring out exactly what it is you want in your life. Another really important part of that clarity is to let it go. Confused? Don’t be. It’s not complicated.The truth is manifesting the life you want is, in fact, pretty simple.  Of course anyone telling you that simple=easy is either drunk, confused or about to sell you some snake oil. Once you figure out what you want,…

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Why I Don’t Bother With Labels

Why I Don’t Bother With Labels

Some people have asked me ‘what’ I am. Have you ever had that question? It can be asked around religion, spirituality, job title, culture…so much can land under that question. I find that amusing because there was a time when finding my label, my ‘thing’ was super important to me. I thought that knowing the correct answer would not only bring me clarity but would support me in creating Step Into Brilliance and even my own personal best life. I…

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