How to Loosen the Habit of Judgment

How to Loosen the Habit of Judgment

We all do it, it’s a natural part of our human experience…judging things and people. Some folks will tell you that it’s ‘helpful’ and we need a certain amount of judgment in our lives in order to live them. You know, we need to judge whether something is right for us, if a situation is safe or helpful, if another person is going to be a good fit as a friend. But let me make a case for the difference…

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How To Ditch Self Criticizing Thoughts

How To Ditch Self Criticizing Thoughts

Imagine for a moment that I have my magic wand out…you know the one. Today I’m going to take it and wave it around and give you a gift. It is a speaker that will take your thoughts and amplify them so everyone around you can hear them.  But don’t worry, it will ONLY use the thoughts you have directed at yourself. That cutie on the bus you see every day on the way to work will never know you…

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How To Start Getting What You Want

How To Start Getting What You Want

A really important part of manifesting the life you want is, of course, figuring out exactly what it is you want in your life. Another really important part of that clarity is to let it go. Confused? Don’t be. It’s not complicated.The truth is manifesting the life you want is, in fact, pretty simple.  Of course anyone telling you that simple=easy is either drunk, confused or about to sell you some snake oil. Once you figure out what you want,…

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Why I Don’t Bother With Labels

Why I Don’t Bother With Labels

Some people have asked me ‘what’ I am. Have you ever had that question? It can be asked around religion, spirituality, job title, culture…so much can land under that question. I find that amusing because there was a time when finding my label, my ‘thing’ was super important to me. I thought that knowing the correct answer would not only bring me clarity but would support me in creating Step Into Brilliance and even my own personal best life. I…

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The Dirty Nasty ‘How’s’

The Dirty Nasty ‘How’s’

What’s a dream you have, one that you’re putting on hold? What are you waiting for? Could it be the ‘hows’? THAT is exactly the last thing to sit and wait for. Listen, goal setting 101 – write it out. What do you WANT? To finish a website? Write a blog? Lost 20 pounds? Build muscle? Learn a new language? Learn to practice forgiveness? Rise to the level of a god? whew…oh wait…I may have gotten a bit excited there….

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The Darker Side Of Giving

The Darker Side Of Giving

Giving is a wonderful thing isn’t it?  Well, it IS, til it’s not. We’ve been bombarded with messages our whole lives about the wonderful magic and giving. Better to give than receive The giver is blessed thrice over Giving is better than receiving I don’t want anything except to make you happy He’s so nice he’d give you the shirt off his own back You can only get what you give There is a lot that we could unpack about…

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Why Motivation Is A Line of BS

Why Motivation Is A Line of BS

We’ve been fed a line, and we’ve taken the bait because it sounded delicious. Motivation. Truly, a bunch of crap and half-truths are floating around out there and these are keeping people from being honest and getting shit done. So listen, if you ARE feeling motivated right now – hey get going! Have at it and enjoy! For those of us ‘other’ folks who aren’t? Here’s the truth…your probably not going to get motivated anytime soon. Well, at least you…

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Is Lucky Just A Mindset?

Is Lucky Just A Mindset?

We all have our stories don’t we?  The ones that begin with “I am…” These are powerful stories.  Some of which we were given and bought into.  Some of which we created based on meaning and context that was quite often limited at the time. And yet, we carry these stories with us. They influence how we see ourselves, others and the life that we are leading. These stories help us create our beliefs which in turn influence our choices…

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What If Our Problems ARE What Make Us Happy?

What If Our Problems ARE What Make Us Happy?

Sometimes the problem is not the problem, only our interpretation of the problem is the problem. Get it? Ya, it’s a bit messy sounding and can lead down a pretty winding path of eye’s widening and exclaiming “ooooh!” I’m not going to lie, that winding path goes deep.  Still, you don’t have to walk the whole thing today. Just get started, start thinking about things a little differently. A great philosopher (whose name escapes me right now, but if you…

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A ‘who me?’ Moment You Can Learn From Too

A ‘who me?’ Moment You Can Learn From Too

Ever have a ‘who me?’ moment?  You know, where you can’t believe someone just said that about you? I had 2 last week that have inspired this post that were almost identical.  This of course, set me to mulling it over in my head and journaling about it to sort it all out. All it was, was a little side comment from someone. They simply said ‘Bonnie never gets upset, she’s always got it together even at the end of…

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