Are You Practicing Self Care or Self Soothing?

Are You Practicing Self Care or Self Soothing?

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It can seem an awful lot like splitting hair between the two concepts, but there is one really big difference between self-care and self-soothing. Hint: The difference lies in how you feel AFTER the fact. Learn more about how to spot which one is which before you make the choice (and it IS a choice!) to continue. Raising your awareness about self-care or self-soothing is going to help you make better choices for yourself. Ones that support your vision of…

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When Complaining is Draining

When Complaining is Draining

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Have you noticed this less than ideal ‘trend’?  I get it. There is a lot we can complain about right now. Honestly, 2020 is giving us some major growth opportunities. I know it doesn’t feel great right now, but man…imagine the resilience and strength that we are building up! Still, complaining constantly is not healthy or a habit you want to get into and establish as the way you live your life! Am I right? And yet, I’m noticing more…

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How Do People Pleasers Say No?

How Do People Pleasers Say No?

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So how do ‘people pleasers’ say no?  Well as someone who knows very well she is a recovering (and still very much working at it) people pleaser, I can tell you simply…we don’t. Full stop. It doesn’t happen. Now we quite often MEAN to say no, we just do it in such a round-about, don’t want to upset any apple carts or make anyone unhappy way…that it sounds, at best, like a ‘maybe’. And we are lying. To ourselves and…

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Is Your Phone Making You Happier Mentally and Emotionally?

Is Your Phone Making You Happier Mentally and Emotionally?

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When was the last time you checked your phone? And the time before that? And before that? If you are anything like most people, you know it was only moments or at best minutes. Depending on the study done, the average number of times a person checks their phone can range from about 80 to 96 times a day. That’s an average so that of course means some times it’s less, but it also means some times it is more!…

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I Wasn’t Ready!

I Wasn’t Ready!

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I was talking to a friend of mine about this series on Netflix and she was telling me about the finale and she said that classic line “I wasn’t ready for that!” I (mostly) laughed and said: “I know, I just was not emotionally prepared for that!” And for a moment I was transported to all those times when I said: “I wasn’t ready” and yet here we are! All the way home I kept thinking about that sentence. I…

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So Many Reasons to Practice Mindfulness

So Many Reasons to Practice Mindfulness

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Mindfulness meditation helps you be in the present moment. Instead of focusing on anxious or depressive thoughts, mindfulness can assist you to change this pattern.   Your focus can then be on the present moment. The here and now.   In the present, you can recognize you are well and good, even if things aren’t perfect.  This alone can be a huge shift in our thinking and quite often enough to pull us out of a negative thought spiral. Thoughts…

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Are you the type to give, give, give until you’ve got nothing left, and then still try to give more so other people will approve of you? I was for years. It was ingrained deeply in my belief system that if I didn’t do enough and do it ‘right’ (whatever that means) I wasn’t approved of and it wasn’t going to be a good time for me. This carried on, I was trying to somehow be, do, and give enough….

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How Our Own Expectations Frustrate Us

How Our Own Expectations Frustrate Us

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I remember hearing that advice for the first time. Or at least it was the first time I actually paid attention and really ‘heard’ it if you know what I mean. You Teach People How to Treat You It was kind of confusing. I mean, was I supposed to just TELL everyone all the time exactly how I wanted to be treated? That seemed like a lot. But it actually is like that. However, there are other ways we do…

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You Are Your Only Limit
Why does motivation fizzle out?

Why does motivation fizzle out?

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  Ever decide you need to do something but then can’t seem to get started or keep going? You are not alone! In this video I talk about 2 big blocks that come up when we find we SAY we want to do something but then fizzle out and don’t. What is going on? Why don’t we get done what we say we want to? Where did my motivation go? Most of the time, if we just stop and listen…

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How worrying creates more problems than it solves

How worrying creates more problems than it solves

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Hello lovelies! Oh boy, if you’ve been following me or the news in general you may have heard that here in PNW we just got hammered by not one, not two but MANY storms! (I actually lost count and we are waiting on another as I write this) A couple of these storms which brought really heavy snow, high winds and messy roads. You see, we are not all that good at dealing with snow around here if I’m honest…

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