Life lessons. Have you ever been told that the crappy stuff that just fell in your lap is the universe, or life or god teaching you the lessons you need in life? Honestly, I used to adhere to that line of thinking too. It makes some sense because I do think there are things we are here to figure out. Still, sometimes shit just happens. No lesson, no cosmic reason…just a roll of the dice. So what’s the point of…
Hello lovely and welcome to 2021! We made it! If you get my emails or follow me on social media, you’ll know I took some time this holiday to recharge, recuperate and honestly turn everything (including me) off. Very little social media, no coaching at all for over a WEEK! yikes! And yet, everyone seems to have survived! And it was soooo needed. I mean, have you ever finally done something, or gotten something and realized you didn’t realize how…
It can seem an awful lot like splitting hair between the two concepts, but there is one really big difference between self-care and self-soothing. Hint: The difference lies in how you feel AFTER the fact. Learn more about how to spot which one is which before you make the choice (and it IS a choice!) to continue. Raising your awareness about self-care or self-soothing is going to help you make better choices for yourself. Ones that support your vision of…
Have you noticed this less than ideal ‘trend’? I get it. There is a lot we can complain about right now. Honestly, 2020 is giving us some major growth opportunities. I know it doesn’t feel great right now, but man…imagine the resilience and strength that we are building up! Still, complaining constantly is not healthy or a habit you want to get into and establish as the way you live your life! Am I right? And yet, I’m noticing more…
So how do ‘people pleasers’ say no? Well as someone who knows very well she is a recovering (and still very much working at it) people pleaser, I can tell you simply…we don’t. Full stop. It doesn’t happen. Now we quite often MEAN to say no, we just do it in such a round-about, don’t want to upset any apple carts or make anyone unhappy way…that it sounds, at best, like a ‘maybe’. And we are lying. To ourselves and…
When was the last time you checked your phone? And the time before that? And before that? If you are anything like most people, you know it was only moments or at best minutes. Depending on the study done, the average number of times a person checks their phone can range from about 80 to 96 times a day. That’s an average so that of course means some times it’s less, but it also means some times it is more!…
I was talking to a friend of mine about this series on Netflix and she was telling me about the finale and she said that classic line “I wasn’t ready for that!” I (mostly) laughed and said: “I know, I just was not emotionally prepared for that!” And for a moment I was transported to all those times when I said: “I wasn’t ready” and yet here we are! All the way home I kept thinking about that sentence. I…
Mindfulness meditation helps you be in the present moment. Instead of focusing on anxious or depressive thoughts, mindfulness can assist you to change this pattern. Your focus can then be on the present moment. The here and now. In the present, you can recognize you are well and good, even if things aren’t perfect. This alone can be a huge shift in our thinking and quite often enough to pull us out of a negative thought spiral. Thoughts…
Are you the type to give, give, give until you’ve got nothing left, and then still try to give more so other people will approve of you? I was for years. It was ingrained deeply in my belief system that if I didn’t do enough and do it ‘right’ (whatever that means) I wasn’t approved of and it wasn’t going to be a good time for me. This carried on, I was trying to somehow be, do, and give enough….
I remember hearing that advice for the first time. Or at least it was the first time I actually paid attention and really ‘heard’ it if you know what I mean. You Teach People How to Treat You It was kind of confusing. I mean, was I supposed to just TELL everyone all the time exactly how I wanted to be treated? That seemed like a lot. But it actually is like that. However, there are other ways we do…