Self care needs to be purposeful! Yes, yes I know I’ve said that before (a few hundred times) and yet there are some folks out there you have heard it – but clearly don’t get it. How do I know? Simple, because they are not living it. Too many folks are half-assing it, forgetting about it or not prioritizing it and then wondering why self care doesn’t help them. So I’ve decided to share with you some of the very…
We all do it, it’s a natural part of our human experience…judging things and people. Some folks will tell you that it’s ‘helpful’ and we need a certain amount of judgment in our lives in order to live them. You know, we need to judge whether something is right for us, if a situation is safe or helpful, if another person is going to be a good fit as a friend. But let me make a case for the difference…
Imagine for a moment that I have my magic wand out…you know the one. Today I’m going to take it and wave it around and give you a gift. It is a speaker that will take your thoughts and amplify them so everyone around you can hear them. But don’t worry, it will ONLY use the thoughts you have directed at yourself. That cutie on the bus you see every day on the way to work will never know you…
Some people have asked me ‘what’ I am. Have you ever had that question? It can be asked around religion, spirituality, job title, culture…so much can land under that question. I find that amusing because there was a time when finding my label, my ‘thing’ was super important to me. I thought that knowing the correct answer would not only bring me clarity but would support me in creating Step Into Brilliance and even my own personal best life. I…
What’s a dream you have, one that you’re putting on hold? What are you waiting for? Could it be the ‘hows’? THAT is exactly the last thing to sit and wait for. Listen, goal setting 101 – write it out. What do you WANT? To finish a website? Write a blog? Lost 20 pounds? Build muscle? Learn a new language? Learn to practice forgiveness? Rise to the level of a god? whew…oh wait…I may have gotten a bit excited there….
We’ve been fed a line, and we’ve taken the bait because it sounded delicious. Motivation. Truly, a bunch of crap and half-truths are floating around out there and these are keeping people from being honest and getting shit done. So listen, if you ARE feeling motivated right now – hey get going! Have at it and enjoy! For those of us ‘other’ folks who aren’t? Here’s the truth…your probably not going to get motivated anytime soon. Well, at least you…
Sometimes the problem is not the problem, only our interpretation of the problem is the problem. Get it? Ya, it’s a bit messy sounding and can lead down a pretty winding path of eye’s widening and exclaiming “ooooh!” I’m not going to lie, that winding path goes deep. Still, you don’t have to walk the whole thing today. Just get started, start thinking about things a little differently. A great philosopher (whose name escapes me right now, but if you…
Ever have a ‘who me?’ moment? You know, where you can’t believe someone just said that about you? I had 2 last week that have inspired this post that were almost identical. This of course, set me to mulling it over in my head and journaling about it to sort it all out. All it was, was a little side comment from someone. They simply said ‘Bonnie never gets upset, she’s always got it together even at the end of…
Why don’t you need to bother with New Year’s resolutions? Easy answer? Because they SUCK and you don’t really care about them anyway. C’mon, am I right? Little bit? Yeah, I thought so. It’s December 31st, 2016 today. New Year’s Eve Baby! At 8am I’ve already had 3 emails and have seen multiple Facebook and twitter posts about how to ‘FIX’ your new year’s resolutions this year. Everything from wording them differently, to buy this app, to getting a ‘resolution…
As of writing this there are only 2 days left in 2016. It’s been quite a ride hasn’t it? Lots of people are REALLY ready to feel those fresh start feelings with 2017 beginning so soon. I love that. A new year, new start and all those yummy things! One thing I would like to share with you is this…you can get all the fresh starts, clean slates and new beginnings you want, but they are often quite pointless. Why?…