Have you ever lied about being ‘busy’? The vague ‘oh I have an appointment then” when you really don’t? That sort of thing? I most certainly have. In the past I think I lied about this quite often. Or worse didn’t and struggled through situations that were far too much for my physical well-being, not to mention emotional or mental well-being. I don’t know about you, but I use to lie about being busy to avoid the looks, the feelings…
Beautiful Soul, this is your friendly reminder that You Are Enough. Too often we push and pull at our Selves, til we hardly recognize who we really are in this world because we’re trying so desperately to fit into it. Desperate to BE enough, when the truth it our enough-ness is already Truth. You are NOT responsible for anyone else. You are not them. They are not you. And yet, we are all innately connected. But only you are responsible…
“I only have a minute” Famous last words right? I mean, what’s a ‘minute’ but 60 seconds? It seems like such a tiny amount of time and yet, it’s really only as small as you make it. After all, how much time does it take to say “I love you.” Or “I want to break up.” Or have someone crash into you? Less than that 60 seconds and still the world can completely change. Of course, it doesn’t have to…
One of the things I often have to explain to people is that coaching is not therapy, mentoring or being your bestie who will love you, listen and tell you you’re wonderful, no matter what. (I will tell you the truth lovely, even if you don’t like it) I have referred people to a therapist when I realized they are looking for help healing past trauma. While coaching can provide inner healing, it’s not a replacement for the type of…
We all do it, it’s a natural part of our human experience…judging things and people. Some folks will tell you that it’s ‘helpful’ and we need a certain amount of judgment in our lives in order to live them. You know, we need to judge whether something is right for us, if a situation is safe or helpful, if another person is going to be a good fit as a friend. But let me make a case for the difference…
Imagine for a moment that I have my magic wand out…you know the one. Today I’m going to take it and wave it around and give you a gift. It is a speaker that will take your thoughts and amplify them so everyone around you can hear them. But don’t worry, it will ONLY use the thoughts you have directed at yourself. That cutie on the bus you see every day on the way to work will never know you…
Some people have asked me ‘what’ I am. Have you ever had that question? It can be asked around religion, spirituality, job title, culture…so much can land under that question. I find that amusing because there was a time when finding my label, my ‘thing’ was super important to me. I thought that knowing the correct answer would not only bring me clarity but would support me in creating Step Into Brilliance and even my own personal best life. I…
Giving is a wonderful thing isn’t it? Well, it IS, til it’s not. We’ve been bombarded with messages our whole lives about the wonderful magic and giving. Better to give than receive The giver is blessed thrice over Giving is better than receiving I don’t want anything except to make you happy He’s so nice he’d give you the shirt off his own back You can only get what you give There is a lot that we could unpack about…
Sometimes the problem is not the problem, only our interpretation of the problem is the problem. Get it? Ya, it’s a bit messy sounding and can lead down a pretty winding path of eye’s widening and exclaiming “ooooh!” I’m not going to lie, that winding path goes deep. Still, you don’t have to walk the whole thing today. Just get started, start thinking about things a little differently. A great philosopher (whose name escapes me right now, but if you…
Ever have a ‘who me?’ moment? You know, where you can’t believe someone just said that about you? I had 2 last week that have inspired this post that were almost identical. This of course, set me to mulling it over in my head and journaling about it to sort it all out. All it was, was a little side comment from someone. They simply said ‘Bonnie never gets upset, she’s always got it together even at the end of…